Emotional Resilience Quiz: 9 Quick and Simple Ways to Check From Massachusetts’ Harvard University
Oh, the world of emotions. Wondering whether it's okay to show or not show them, as well as dealing with them privately, is an almost daily deal. Sometimes, I totally think I'm emotionally resilient, wondering where my Academy Award is for acting like everything is okay. Other times I'm a ball of mush, wondering how others are so calm, cool, and collected, and sure that everyone can tell I'm emotionally losing it.
According to CNBC, Harvard-trained Dr. Cortney Warren says it takes effort, practice, mental strength, and utilizing at least one of these nine phrases every single day to ensure you're emotionally resilient. So are you ready?
"I can get through this or I will survive this." I've so said these phrases or versions, but it's not a daily thing for me.
"I'm not going to be a victim" or "Even though I'm a victim in this situation, I won't let it define me or ruin me." Yup, been here but most definitely not a daily mantra or way of life.
"Life is hard" or "I don't always like how things play out, but it's part of the journey." Ha! Okay, this one I do say at least a couple of times each week.
"This too shall pass" or "Each day is one step closer to being better." Again, not a daily statement, but who hasn't said this, right?
"What can I learn from this" or "How can I use this experience to improve?" Oh, this is a good one. Not daily, but often, even with positive experiences, I've said this.
"I need some time" or "I'm going to take a moment." Once again, another powerful phrase I've used for personal, often big decisions or with others. Not daily, though.
"I still have things to be grateful for" or "There's a lot of good in my life, too." Who hasn't been here and used this statement to turn negativity into positivity in life? Daily though, I'm not sure I have.
"It is what it is" or "I have to see things for how they are, and this is reality right now." Okay, this one I just may say just about every day, even for trivial moments. Although being in New England, we're so used to this as part of Patriots' coach Bill Belichick's philosophy.
"Just let it go" or "Forgiving doesn't mean forgetting, but I'm moving on." This is one of the toughest ones for sure, because just letting go isn't easy, but absolutely I've said this.
Emotionally resilient people are deliberate in their response to painful experiences, according to CNBC's contributing writer Dr.Cortney Warren. This allows ourselves to focus on what we can control in the moment, and using at least one of these phrases once a day is doing just that. Hmmmm, maybe I do say at least one of these each day, since I do use them all randomly. Fingers crossed that we're both more resilient than we sometimes feel. How'd you do?